Tuesday, October 1, 2013

When you're Struggling with something...

Whenever I am going through a particular struggle, I obsess about it. I can't let it go. I take certain aspects of my life very seriously, so when things end up backfiring or leave me feeling alone, I genuinely struggle with it. Often, I become so wrapped up in my own battles that I forget about the people around me.

As I was running this evening, I thought of one of my favorite quotes from the one and only, Nicholas Sparks. Not only do I love the man for his ability to engage every emotion through his writing, but he also relays some very insightful messages to us along the way. (If you are curious, this particular quote is from his novel, "Dear John.") One thing in particular that sticks out to me as I reflect upon this quote is how quickly we judge people without knowing their stories. I cannot even begin to tell you the number of times throughout my life where I have either made assumptions or judgements about a person without getting to know them.

However, when have I ever put myself in that person's shoes? Or even more so, when have I ever actually taken the time to listen to that person's story?

Sure, it is easy to dwell on whatever is weighing on our hearts and consider our struggles far worse than those of others. But DO always remember that we all have our challenges. Whether your classmate is struggling to maintain their busy schedule or your best friend is facing an excruciating heartbreak...we all have our giants--no matter how big or small they might be. While the challenges of others may seem to pale in comparison to yours, whatever others are dealing with "to them, it's just as hard as what you're going through."

One of the best things that has helped me though difficult times is to engage myself in activities that help others. Sometimes I volunteer, while other times I make little gifts for others. When you take a step back from your own situation and focus on those around you, you begin to feel yourself become naturally more content. It doesn't happen overnight. It won't make your problems magically disappear. But neither will shutting people out of your life or dwelling each second of the day.

I pray that whatever you are going through in your life--no matter how big or small--that you soon steer yourself on a smoother path and find yourself at home again.


  1. Yes! There's nothing to be gained from automatically shutting people down because you think their struggles cannot compare to yours, or judging them because they look like a certain 'type' of person.

    1. So true! Sometimes it is our first instincts, but I am constantly trying to remind myself each day to avoid judging those around me!

      Thanks for stopping by Rachel! Your comments always make me so happy! :)

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