Saturday, November 30, 2013

Love is a Verb

Like most families, my family often exchanges memories or stories when we get together. Over Thanksgiving, my grandma was thinking back to when my great-grandparents were still around and their house needed re-shingling. Low-and-behold, my 80-year old grandfather was up on that roof, working day in to day out. (Apparently, men were even more stubborn back then than they are today.) After a long day of work, my great-grandfather’s knees were in a considerable amount of pain, as you can imagine for a man his age. That evening, my grandma knelt at his side and rubbed his knees with such love and devotion. As my grandma was telling this story, I jokingly blurted out “Heck if I ever rub some man’s knees!!” With a grin, she replied, “When you find the right one, you will.”

After hearing of this story, I got to thinking a little more about the concept of love—in all forms of relationships, really. At times, I think that love has lost its meaning. Have you ever noticed how easily and frequently we drop the L-bomb each day? We use the word to describe how much we enjoy foods. We use it to describe a movie we recently saw at the theater. We use it express emotion toward a significant other. We use it to tell our friends how much we care about them. 

We use it so freely that it makes me wonder how we are supposed to really know what love is. In fact, sometimes I even wonder what the big deal about love is.  

Hey, if we use the word so loosely, how can it really be that special?

I’ve come to the conclusion that the only way I can really view love is as a verb. I adore the song by John Mayer, “Love is a Verb.” The lyrics are simple, yet so profound.

I don’t want to be told that someone loves me. Words are great and all, but how many times can you name where someone has broken their word to you? No. I want to be shown that someone cares through how I am treated. And I want to do the same. One of my favorite quotes of all times comes from the book, The Rescue by Nicholas Sparks: 

“You’re going to come across people in your life who will say all the right words at all the right times. But in the end, it’s always their actions you should judge them by. It’s actions, not words, that matter.”

It’s in those times where actions do not align with words that we should be cautious. However, at the same time, imagine how refreshing it will feel when they do align. Our actions don’t have to be of grandeur. They don’t have to be documented for all of the world to see (or our Facebook newsfeed). They need only be sincere. 

Remember that the next time you drop the L-word. Can you back-up what you say with what you do?

1 comment:

  1. Yes! This is a simple truth, but I do believe that all real love is obvious through actions!